(Pre-S: Today, I'm speaking in front of a group of ladies at a local luncheon. To say that I'm nervous is a crazy understatement. To say that I feel like speaking in front of a group of people is something I've been waiting for like you wait for the bathroom after you've had three vodka sodas is probably accurate. I'm antsy! Hope to see you there!)
The first year of being in business is rough.
Scratch that...the first three years of being in business are rough.
You're setting up your website, you're trying to network effectively, and you're wondering where exactly all the clients are at?
(No but really. Where are all the clients?)
And even if you grow at an astronomical rate in years 1, 2, or 3, you've still got to implement systems and strategies that help you grow, which often come with some lacking customer service experiences and moments where you think you're just going to collapse from under all the weight.
And you know what? It's all going to be okay.
Because if this shit were easy? Everyone would do it.
I didn't become an entrepreneur to work 80 hours a week, but sometimes, I work 80 hours a week and never sleep. Sometimes, I work 15 and ski more often than I check my email.
Thems the breaks, kid.
So if you're in one of those "This is incredibly hard, good-lord-please-help-me-what-have-I-gotten-myself-into" phases?
Here's what I'd do.
1. Chill the heck out.
You know what the biggest barrier to that product you haven't launched or that service that you haven't told anyone about?
You. And so if you're face down on your office floor feeling like a failure BEFORE you've done a damn thing? You need a chill pill.
I have never in my life been so anxious with work and anxiety and felt better by continuing to stare at my screen. So don't waste your time. Get up, get moving, and don't look back.
2. Reach out to one good friend.
You know what I get trapped in? Thinking that everything I'm doing is total BS. But to be honest, no one from the outside is feeling that way. It's just me.
So I haul a friend up to the ski hill with me, complain about how ineffective and terrible I am, let them smack some sense into me, maybe have a coffee on the way home, and then I sit down and write blog posts like this.
This is why you need to have Boss Lady friends (want to learn how to get some? Drop your email in that little box below for a freebie on how to start building your unique, local community).
3. Write that shit down. Go to bed.
Ain't nothing in this world that can't be solved with a clear head and a good night's sleep.
You know when I'm at my worst? When I'm function on 4 hours of sleep.
Best? 8+ (okay, probably closer to 10, but whatever, I live alone!).
Whenever I would stay up all night worrying, I'd call my sister and I'd say "I'm just really worried about this." And my sister (in all her annoyingly infinite older-sister-wisdom always used to say
"Oh yea? How's that going for you?"
Don't worry. Get sleep. Take a Xanax if you have to (prescription drugs are always allowed 'round these parts).
Your turn - tell me what ONE thing you do when you get a little anxious about being a business owner.